Comments on: coming out of the closet http://queengilda.com/2008/07/24/coming-out-of-the-closet/ Thu, 11 Mar 2010 21:40:42 -0700 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.9.2 hourly 1 By: Chi http://queengilda.com/2008/07/24/coming-out-of-the-closet/comment-page-1/#comment-2815 Chi Tue, 02 Mar 2010 18:48:23 +0000 http://queengilda.com/?p=277#comment-2815 This is the first time I'm commenting, but I've been reading your blogs for the past 2 hrs (creepy no? haha). I found this post so inspiring. I just recently told my parents that I don't want to be a doctor (I never did, I only convinced myself) and that I want to pursue fashion designing seriously. They freaked because I'm in my 3rd year of college and was in the process of applying. I just couldn't take stifling my creativity anymore. I "came out of the closet :)" Your story and Josh's story is so beautiful. Being true to yourself, no matter how long it takes you, is very challenging, but it is so freeing and builds your strength for future obstacles. This is the first time I’m commenting, but I’ve been reading your blogs for the past 2 hrs (creepy no? haha).
I found this post so inspiring. I just recently told my parents that I don’t want to be a doctor (I never did, I only convinced myself) and that I want to pursue fashion designing seriously. They freaked because I’m in my 3rd year of college and was in the process of applying. I just couldn’t take stifling my creativity anymore. I “came out of the closet :) ” Your story and Josh’s story is so beautiful.
Being true to yourself, no matter how long it takes you, is very challenging, but it is so freeing and builds your strength for future obstacles.

]]> By: Jami http://queengilda.com/2008/07/24/coming-out-of-the-closet/comment-page-1/#comment-2719 Jami Sun, 03 Jan 2010 13:33:34 +0000 http://queengilda.com/?p=277#comment-2719 I think that most amazing discovery in my life is that you are not alone and lot of other people have the same feelings. I've spent most of my younger life trying to please people and fit in. And why? I should just be myself. You got to do work in what you are passionate about (in this case fashion) so you can get good at it. I just wish I had your courage when I was younger. .-= ♥ Jami´s last blog ..<a href="http://www.fakerockchick.com/drag-queen-makeup/learn-put/" rel="nofollow">Learn By Yourself How to Put on Make up</a> =-. I think that most amazing discovery in my life is that you are not alone and lot of other people have the same feelings. I’ve spent most of my younger life trying to please people and fit in. And why? I should just be myself. You got to do work in what you are passionate about (in this case fashion) so you can get good at it. I just wish I had your courage when I was younger.
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]]> By: kathleen http://queengilda.com/2008/07/24/coming-out-of-the-closet/comment-page-1/#comment-1965 kathleen Wed, 26 Aug 2009 13:22:38 +0000 http://queengilda.com/?p=277#comment-1965 First, what is success? Seriously, what does that mean to you? Let's assume you can only pick one of two things: 1. You want to be a star. You are famous -everyone knows your name. But in fashion, stars are usually bankrupt and constantly looking for new investors. Your life is consumed with money problems. WWD regularly reports on your latest financial disaster. Bankrupt but famous is usually true in fashion. Can you name one designer in this category who hasn't declared bankruptcy or been bailed out by angels at least once? Most, more than once. 2. Nobody knows your name but you live well. You can pay your bills, you're happy, greet life cheerfully and never worry about checking the caller ID. You have the financial freedom to worry about your collection, not how to pay for it. These two scenarios are typical in this industry. There's nothing wrong with wanting option #1, it's how you choose to live your life. If you want to be a star, you can be a star at anything. You just happened to pick fashion. Madonna was/is a #1. She just wanted to be a star. The thing I admire about her is that she KNEW it and she worked it like a job. Most people who want to be stars just want to fling out a bit of flair, play up a minor talent, hire a publicist and brand themselves. If you fall in camp #2, you should know that most of these designers have math and science backgrounds. Hard science is not incompatible with the industry. Rather, it's usually a hint the designer will perform better than what is socially considered to be "successful". Summary: assuming you can only pick one, which would you want? Fame OR Fortune? Which, at your core, would make you happiest? Which would make your family proudest? There's a tremendous amount of intellectual rigor in running a company well. Consider people you admire personally, not because they're famous. You admire the people you do because of the discipline and rigor they bring to their work. Whether it's fashion or whatever, you won't find an intellectual slouch among them. Btw, I'm the "underwater basket weaver" of my family :) First, what is success? Seriously, what does that mean to you? Let’s assume you can only pick one of two things:

1. You want to be a star. You are famous -everyone knows your name. But in fashion, stars are usually bankrupt and constantly looking for new investors. Your life is consumed with money problems. WWD regularly reports on your latest financial disaster. Bankrupt but famous is usually true in fashion. Can you name one designer in this category who hasn’t declared bankruptcy or been bailed out by angels at least once? Most, more than once.

2. Nobody knows your name but you live well. You can pay your bills, you’re happy, greet life cheerfully and never worry about checking the caller ID. You have the financial freedom to worry about your collection, not how to pay for it.

These two scenarios are typical in this industry. There’s nothing wrong with wanting option #1, it’s how you choose to live your life. If you want to be a star, you can be a star at anything. You just happened to pick fashion. Madonna was/is a #1. She just wanted to be a star. The thing I admire about her is that she KNEW it and she worked it like a job. Most people who want to be stars just want to fling out a bit of flair, play up a minor talent, hire a publicist and brand themselves.

If you fall in camp #2, you should know that most of these designers have math and science backgrounds. Hard science is not incompatible with the industry. Rather, it’s usually a hint the designer will perform better than what is socially considered to be “successful”.

Summary: assuming you can only pick one, which would you want? Fame OR Fortune? Which, at your core, would make you happiest? Which would make your family proudest? There’s a tremendous amount of intellectual rigor in running a company well. Consider people you admire personally, not because they’re famous. You admire the people you do because of the discipline and rigor they bring to their work. Whether it’s fashion or whatever, you won’t find an intellectual slouch among them.

Btw, I’m the “underwater basket weaver” of my family :)

]]> By: Sabrina http://queengilda.com/2008/07/24/coming-out-of-the-closet/comment-page-1/#comment-1962 Sabrina Mon, 24 Aug 2009 14:49:42 +0000 http://queengilda.com/?p=277#comment-1962 Wow, that is so inspiring. My sitaution is similar to what yours what but your words have helped. You are so right...you've got to reach for the dream no matter what gets in your way. You've got to overcome the obstactles and the dream starts to become reality :) Wow, that is so inspiring. My sitaution is similar to what yours what but your words have helped. You are so right…you’ve got to reach for the dream no matter what gets in your way. You’ve got to overcome the obstactles and the dream starts to become reality :)

]]> By: Marvelous Monday! http://queengilda.com/2008/07/24/coming-out-of-the-closet/comment-page-1/#comment-1961 Marvelous Monday! Mon, 24 Aug 2009 00:46:45 +0000 http://queengilda.com/?p=277#comment-1961 [...] Gilda has a great post about coming out of the closet, in whatever way that may [...] [...] Gilda has a great post about coming out of the closet, in whatever way that may [...]

]]> By: gilda http://queengilda.com/2008/07/24/coming-out-of-the-closet/comment-page-1/#comment-1910 gilda Thu, 06 Aug 2009 23:41:51 +0000 http://queengilda.com/?p=277#comment-1910 <b>+david+</b> oh no.... i wish i could help you but well, i have no idea how that works. i guess you just need to sit them down and tell them. is there ever a right or wrong way? i don't think so. good luck!! +david+
oh no…. i wish i could help you but well, i have no idea how that works. i guess you just need to sit them down and tell them. is there ever a right or wrong way? i don’t think so. good luck!!

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