Comments on: learning how to say no and stand up for yourself http://queengilda.com/2008/08/28/learning-how-to-say-no-and-stand-up-for-yourself/ Tue, 07 Sep 2010 18:21:30 -0700 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.0.1 By: gilda http://queengilda.com/2008/08/28/learning-how-to-say-no-and-stand-up-for-yourself/comment-page-1/#comment-1133 gilda Sun, 14 Sep 2008 21:48:37 +0000 http://queengilda.com/?p=517#comment-1133 <b>+aja+</b> wow, that's amazing that you did that!!! plus, petrol costs money, yo! didn't she hear about rising gas prices! +aja+
wow, that’s amazing that you did that!!! plus, petrol costs money, yo! didn’t she hear about rising gas prices!

]]> By: Aja http://queengilda.com/2008/08/28/learning-how-to-say-no-and-stand-up-for-yourself/comment-page-1/#comment-1062 Aja Wed, 10 Sep 2008 14:33:17 +0000 http://queengilda.com/?p=517#comment-1062 How ironic, I just dealt with this LAST week. There's this one friend that I know, that kind of bullies me into doing whatever she wants and it drives me nuts "drive me here. drive me there. let's do this". I can't believe I've been such a pushover for a long time. I put my foot down and said "no", firmly. I'm happy I did. Although I can tell, she was a little bit upset with me, I'm pleased about it. I don't need a friend who bosses me around and constantly makes me do things I don't want to do! How ironic, I just dealt with this LAST week. There’s this one friend that I know, that kind of bullies me into doing whatever she wants and it drives me nuts “drive me here. drive me there. let’s do this”. I can’t believe I’ve been such a pushover for a long time. I put my foot down and said “no”, firmly. I’m happy I did. Although I can tell, she was a little bit upset with me, I’m pleased about it. I don’t need a friend who bosses me around and constantly makes me do things I don’t want to do!

]]> By: gilda http://queengilda.com/2008/08/28/learning-how-to-say-no-and-stand-up-for-yourself/comment-page-1/#comment-1036 gilda Sun, 07 Sep 2008 11:27:59 +0000 http://queengilda.com/?p=517#comment-1036 <b>+zakuro+</b> ジューシー話は嫌いな人は居ないと思うけどね。笑　スパンコールの靴ちょーナイスアイデアだよね！！あたしも欲しい。ぱくっちゃい・・・ます！東京のファッションウィークは行かないんですか？行ったらなんか写真とかいっぱいアップしてね！！！あたしは授業あるから、あまり行けてないけど、とりあえずは仕事の繋がりでパトリシアフィールドのショーは昨日行って来ました！結構楽しかった！ <b>+couture carrie+</b> you have been a teacher???? i can't explain why, but i'm so amazed!! a teacher who blogs fashion. how come i never had that! :D <b>+fashionherald+</b> really easy! haha! i love it that you said that so easy too! :) <b>+bernhard+</b> i don't really know where that is in germany, but thank you! <b>+ml+</b> it really is, and i think a lot of teenagers and young adults, and even people well into their 40s and older have this problem too! it's great that at your age you can talk about assertiveness! good for you! <b>+leanne+</b> i used to do that when i was in my teens!!! you really shouldn't. i mean, i would gladly buy a present for a good friend, but for someone whom i barely know whether or not they are even straight or gay or what their last name is, i really wouldn't bother anymore. it's not fair to you. even if it was 5 bucks, hey, that's a nice chocolate cake! people like that are a pain in the ass, especially if they only talk to you because they expect a present!! you really should just say a happy birthday instead! good luck!! +zakuro+
ジューシー話は嫌いな人は居ないと思うけどね。笑　スパンコールの靴ちょーナイスアイデアだよね！！あたしも欲しい。ぱくっちゃい・・・ます！東京のファッションウィークは行かないんですか？行ったらなんか写真とかいっぱいアップしてね！！！あたしは授業あるから、あまり行けてないけど、とりあえずは仕事の繋がりでパトリシアフィールドのショーは昨日行って来ました！結構楽しかった！

+couture carrie+
you have been a teacher???? i can’t explain why, but i’m so amazed!! a teacher who blogs fashion. how come i never had that! :D

+fashionherald+
really easy! haha! i love it that you said that so easy too! :)

+bernhard+
i don’t really know where that is in germany, but thank you!

+ml+
it really is, and i think a lot of teenagers and young adults, and even people well into their 40s and older have this problem too! it’s great that at your age you can talk about assertiveness! good for you!

+leanne+
i used to do that when i was in my teens!!! you really shouldn’t. i mean, i would gladly buy a present for a good friend, but for someone whom i barely know whether or not they are even straight or gay or what their last name is, i really wouldn’t bother anymore. it’s not fair to you. even if it was 5 bucks, hey, that’s a nice chocolate cake! people like that are a pain in the ass, especially if they only talk to you because they expect a present!! you really should just say a happy birthday instead! good luck!!

]]> By: Leanne http://queengilda.com/2008/08/28/learning-how-to-say-no-and-stand-up-for-yourself/comment-page-1/#comment-1022 Leanne Fri, 05 Sep 2008 15:20:48 +0000 http://queengilda.com/?p=517#comment-1022 the best way is the honest way. i've been working very hard these past months to be myself, meaning saying "no" when i mean to say "no." one thing i struggle with is saying "no" to chipping in for birthday presents. it makes me feel bad but then it bothers me because i might barely know the person. even though they are in the same group of friends, it's annoying to find they don't talk to you and the only time they do is when their birthday is approaching. =_=" the best way is the honest way. i’ve been working very hard these past months to be myself, meaning saying “no” when i mean to say “no.” one thing i struggle with is saying “no” to chipping in for birthday presents. it makes me feel bad but then it bothers me because i might barely know the person. even though they are in the same group of friends, it’s annoying to find they don’t talk to you and the only time they do is when their birthday is approaching. =_=”

]]> By: ML http://queengilda.com/2008/08/28/learning-how-to-say-no-and-stand-up-for-yourself/comment-page-1/#comment-1012 ML Thu, 04 Sep 2008 03:00:16 +0000 http://queengilda.com/?p=517#comment-1012 Hey Gilda, great article :) I have lots of thoughts on this, but i wrote most of them in an article on my site about being assertive. i really agreed with the practicing part--that is so important. :) ML Hey Gilda,
great article :)
I have lots of thoughts on this, but i wrote most of them in an article on my site about being assertive. i really agreed with the practicing part–that is so important.
:)
ML

]]> By: Bernhard http://queengilda.com/2008/08/28/learning-how-to-say-no-and-stand-up-for-yourself/comment-page-1/#comment-1011 Bernhard Wed, 03 Sep 2008 18:21:22 +0000 http://queengilda.com/?p=517#comment-1011 Occasionally I look here by and read the interesting and well written contributions. Today I would like to leave gladly a greeting from Thuringia in Germany! Occasionally I look here by and read the interesting and well written contributions. Today I would like to leave gladly a greeting from Thuringia in Germany!

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